Book Review: Elderly Parents With All Their Marbles by Pamela Carey

If you have aging parents, you will experience many of the stories in this book. Pamela Carey brings us through her journey with her aging parents… a journey we will all encounter. Her experiences are ones that we can all learn from as we accompany our parents in their elder years.

Elderly Parents


“What happened to me, as related in this book, is entirely factual,” the Forward announces. After reading this book, I know them to be true because I have gone through similar experiences with my parents.

Ms Carey brings us step-by-step on an adventure that began with helping her parents exit their home of many years, through failing health, loss of her mother and then loss of her father.

Some of the vignettes are humorous. I’ve seen them with my parents. There are so many times when their logic is baffling. I chuckled at the mention of only being able to handle one appointment a day. My Dad says that getting a haircut at the retirement home constitutes a busy day.

More seriously recounted are the challenges that come when you encounter the medical system. You better be ready to have steady resolve to advocate for your parents’ health care. I could never get a straight story as to what and how Mum was treated. Dad couldn’t understand the doctors and they wouldn’t talk to me. All I know is that the docs cured the brain cancer but the side-effects killed her. Ms Carey fought similar circumstances with both her parents. The stories pull at your heart.

In the end, you are left with a feeling of how much Ms Carey loved her parents, the unwavering support of her husband and reconciliation with her sister. It is a story about life with aging parents. It prepares us for what is to come so that we can decide how we want to face those realities.

This book is a collection of anecdotes that tells one person’s living through an era in life… the decline and departure of one’s parents. As Baby Boomers, it is an era that we can all identify as either imminent or immediate. Her stories let us know that we are not alone in what we are feeling. I am grateful for her courage to share the intimacies of her thought and feelings. It helps me face my own.

Pamela Carey obtained a B.A. from Colby College and an M.A. from Columbia University Teachers College. She taught high school English in three states before studying at Rhode Island School of Design and opening her own interior design firm. In 2009 Barking Cat Books published Minor League Mom: A Mother’s Journey through the Red Sox Farm Teams—Pam’s story during her two sons’ years playing professional baseball, without ever reaching the major leagues. She and her husband reside in Delray Beach, Florida, and Westport, Massachusetts. When not writing, Pam can be found playing for a tennis team.

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